Raising gender-confident kids in today’s culture of confusion is more important than ever, as parents face mounting challenges from shifting ideologies that undermine children’s sense of identity. In the book “Raising Gender-Confident Kids: Helping Kids Embrace Their God-Given Design” by Dr. Kathy Koch and Dr. Jeff Myers, families are equipped with practical tools and biblical wisdom to guide children toward embracing who God created them to be — male or female, secure and resilient.
Understanding the Challenge
In an era where gender confusion affects more children than before, the book addresses how cultural pressures can lead to doubt, fear, and heartache. Dr. Koch and Dr. Myers, experts in child development and Christian worldview, emphasize that parents don’t need to respond with anger or fear. Instead, they advocate for compassion, hope, truth, and confidence. The authors draw from real-life stories and research to show how gender ideology impacts young minds, often intersecting with mental health issues like anxiety and depression. For instance, they note that many cases labeled as gender dysphoria may stem from temporary discomfort rather than a deep-seated clinical distress. By fostering open conversations, parents can help kids navigate these complexities without losing sight of their God-given purpose.
Biblical Foundations for Gender-Confident Kids
The Bible provides a clear foundation for raising gender-confident kids, affirming that our identity is rooted in God’s intentional creation. Consider Genesis 1:27: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” This verse underscores that gender is not arbitrary but a divine design, reflecting God’s image in humanity. Similarly, Psalm 139:13-14 reminds us, “For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” These words encourage children to celebrate their bodies as wonderfully crafted by God, countering cultural messages that suggest otherwise.
Another supportive passage is Matthew 19:4: “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female.” Jesus Himself references the creation account, affirming binary gender as part of God’s original plan. Dr. Koch and Dr. Myers incorporate such scriptures throughout the book, urging parents to teach these truths to their children early to build resilience. By anchoring discussions in the Bible, families can instill a sense of security that withstands societal confusion.
Practical Strategies from the Experts
The book provides practical guidance for everyday parenting. For example, the authors highlight five core needs — security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence — that, when met, help children thrive. Meeting these needs biblically prevents vulnerability to harmful ideologies. Dr. Kathy Koch shares a powerful insight: “Help your children handle being uncomfortable. Help them learn that being uncomfortable in a season is reality. You can’t run from it. You can’t hide from it. You live through it and walk through it.” This quote captures the book’s compassionate tone, encouraging parents to view discomfort as an opportunity for growth rather than a signal for drastic change.
Dr. Jeff Myers adds, “You’re not crazy, you’re not alone. You do not have to believe what people at school say to you. They do not love you. They do not know you. God loves you and God knows you.” Such reassurance helps kids affirm their identity in Christ amid peer pressure. The authors also recommend engaging in family discussions, modeling healthy gender roles, and seeking community support through local churches or groups like Summit Ministries.
Why This Matters Now
Raising gender-confident kids isn’t just about countering trends; it’s about nurturing faith-filled individuals who glorify God. The book warns of the rapid rise in gender dysphoria claims — sometimes up to 4,000% in certain areas — often driven by social contagion rather than innate issues. By proactively addressing this, parents can prevent long-term harm and foster joy in God’s design.
If you’re ready to dive deeper, listen to Moody Radio’s podcast. “Raising Gender-Confident Kids” is available for purchase on Amazon. It’s also available through outlets such as Focus on the Family and Celebrate Kids’ online store. This resource serves as a lifeline for parents, grandparents, and educators dedicated to biblical parenting.
Raising gender-confident kids requires intentionality, but with God’s Word and wise guidance from authors like Dr. Koch and Dr. Myers, it’s achievable. Start today by affirming your child’s unique design — watch them grow into confident, purpose-driven adults who honor the Creator.
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